5 Simple Things an Honest Successful Person Wants From Others | by Maryam Merchant | The Startup | Feb, 2024

And something they understand about life

Honesty is a great quality to build. Being honest comes with its own ups and downs.

But it makes your mental state at peace and that’s what matters.

In any relationship, whether personal or professional — the only thing I crave is honesty, no matter how hard the truth is. Instead of hurting later — knowing and accepting things beforehand helps you to handle things more maturely.

Today I want to share a few things honest person expects from people and a few things they understand about life by being honest.

Honesty is like a golden rule for me.

I believe that if something’s up, people should tell me straight away. No dancing around, no hiding the truth. It’s about being upfront and real.

When people are open with me, it creates a bond of reliability and understanding. It’s like saying, “Hey, I trust you with the truth, even if it’s not easy.”

Now, I get it, honesty isn’t always a walk in the park.

Sometimes, telling the truth can be scary or uncomfortable.

But here’s the thing — I’d rather hear it straight from the source than find out later from someone else. It’s all about keeping communication clear and relationships strong.

Tips on — how to tell me before I find out:

• Be Direct: Be straightforward and get to the point
• Choose the Right Time and Place: Make sure you’re in a private setting where both of you can talk openly without distractions.
• Use “I” Statements: This helps avoid blaming or accusing the other person and keeps the conversation constructive.
• Be Honest, but Kind: Tell the truth kindly, considering the other person’s feelings.
• Be Open to Questions: Encourage the other person to ask for clarification.

Remember, if your honesty involves admitting a mistake or wrongdoing, be willing to apologize sincerely. Another thing is, if there are any commitments or actions you need to take following the conversation do a follow-through.

Honest people often see pain as a privilege.

Pain is a privilege because it reminds us of our humanity — the ability to feel deeply and empathize with others.

It might sound strange at first, but bear with me.

When you’re honest and genuine, you’re more in tune with your emotions and the world around you. And that means you’re not afraid to feel things deeply, even if it hurts.

Honest individuals understand that — pain is a catalyst for growth.

It pushes you out of your comfort zone and challenges you to become a better version of yourself.

So, instead of shying away from pain, embrace it as a valuable aspect of the human experience.

Tips on how to handle pain:

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions: Don’t ignore pain — allow yourself to feel and understand it.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself kindly during tough times.

3. Cultivate Resilience: Face challenges head-on to become stronger.

4. Practice Gratitude: Be thankful for the lessons pain teaches you.

5. Connect with Others: Share your experiences with trusted individuals for support.

Most importantly, don’t hesitate to seek help if the pain becomes overwhelming.

Interesting thing about fame we understand:

• One day you are loved.
• The next day you are disliked.
• The third day you are hated.
• And the Fourth day you are pitied.

And after a few days, they will restore you again.

So, Why base your self-worth on other people’s opinions?

Instead, you just focus on your work and passion and don’t let others define your value and let you down.

Honest people value their integrity and inner peace more than fleeting fame.

They understand true fulfillment comes from living authentically and making a meaningful impact, rather than chasing after fame.

Tips to understand and chase the right thing instead of fame:

1. Seek Genuine Connections: Cultivate meaningful relationships based on authenticity and mutual respect.
2. Find Fulfillment in Purpose: Identify your passions and interests and pursue them for intrinsic fulfillment.
3. Stay Grounded: Stay grounded in who you are and maintain perspective on what truly matters in life.
4. Find Joy in the Journey: Find joy in the everyday moments, small victories, and meaningful connections that enrich your life.

“Never test Good (Honest) people. They are like Mercury they won’t break when hit. They will just disappear from your life silently.” — Internet

Honest individuals don’t know how to hate because they choose to approach life with empathy, understanding, and forgiveness.

Most importantly they just move away from you.

Honest people know that holding onto hate only makes things worse. It stops them from growing and feeling better.

It’s like we are hurting ourselves by hurting others.

By forgiving others and letting go of bad feelings, they feel happier and more peaceful. It’s like lifting a heavy weight off their shoulders and feeling lighter and freer.

Tips on how to not hate:

• Set Boundaries: It’s okay to distance yourself from people who consistently bring negativity into your life.
• Seek Support: If you’re struggling to let go of feelings of hate, don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist.
• Cultivate Compassion: Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and has their own struggles, and respond with empathy rather than judgment.
• Communicate Effectively: Instead of bottling up negative feelings, express them calmly and assertively.

Honest people understand that moving with love and good intentions is always a sure path to victory.

Spreading love and goodwill doesn’t just make your life better — it makes the whole world brighter.

It’s like throwing a pebble into a pond and watching the ripples of kindness spread far and wide.

When you’re genuine and caring, people naturally trust and respect you more. They see your good intentions and respond in kind, creating a cycle of positivity that benefits everyone involved.

So, if you want to win in life, just remember to move with love and good intentions. It’s a simple yet powerful way to make every day a little bit brighter for yourself and those around you.

Tips on moving with love and good intentions:

• Start Your Day with Positivity: Begin each day with a positive mindset.
• Be Mindful of Your Thoughts and Words: Pay attention to your thoughts and words throughout the day.
• Take Care of Yourself: Prioritize self-care and self-compassion.